Club Sexism

Its a typical Friday night and you're dressed to the nines. You accompany your crew to the hottest club on its hottest night. After what seems like a forever wait in the line, you go to whip out your ID and cash when the bouncer tells you, "we can't let you in". Dumbfounded and searching for answers, you and your crew say in unison (stank face and all), "why"? "We can't let you in here dressed like that" Really? Your outfit clearly fits this clubs dress code, no white tee, fitted cap, sneakers, no excessive skin, actually not much skin at all....and therein lies the problem.

You've become a victim of "Club Sexism".

Its a phenomenon that sadly exists and always has. I've been the victim of it many times because I don't wear heels, skirts, dresses, extremely tight skinny jeans or show a little boob when I go out (but it doesn't mean I don't look fly). This doesn't just happen to women, it happens to men as well. Think about it, men usually pay 50-100xs as much as a woman to get into a club, and they mostly pay for the alcohol (some have even been denied bathroom privileges for not buying a drink), for a typical guy to drop $100 on a night out is par for the course.

Playing devil's advocate; yes, every club has the right to keep membership exclusive, no one wants a club full of duds. However, if I fit all of your basic "rules" what's the issue here? I'm not sexually enticing enough to elicit a drink from a man? Or since a guy doesn't want to drop $50 at your bar he's a loser? Absolutely not! Most clubs need to get over themselves really. I don't know about everyone else but places I've been recently, who enforce ridiculous rules on prospective patrons usually have one, if not more, of these 3 issues:

1.Wack Music
2.Not enough people behind the bar/rude bartenders
3.No one in the club

And you still turn people away?! Word to the wise, avoid these clubs, they usually don't last. Good bars, clubs, lounges, etc... will accept you no problem, as long as you don't look like a thug or a homeless person. If you do become a victim of club sexism, just leave, never return, and spread the word to all your friends. Word of mouth = reputation. Remember that.

Surprise!!! You're 25 :)

Tonight I am off to a surprise celebration for an old friend, whom I literally haven't seen in a year. It's in a part of the city called Manayunk. I've been to this part of the city many times with these friends (honestly, some of the coolest and most cultured people I know), and as much as I loathe the hour trip clear across the city, I seem to marvel at this place. Honestly, Manayunk is a yuppies dream. Known for its frat-esque bars, small cobblestone streets and neighborhood eateries, Manayunk is an idyllic place to start an adult life. Things are close by, its in the city but not at the same time, and has lots of parks and fresh air. With all the crime and deterioation of other parts of the city, I look forward to a nice departure from the routine. I myself look forward to moving to the Northeast section of the city. Yes, this is where many Philadelphians go to raise families and start the second part of their adult life. I've contemplated moving closer to the hustle and bustle of Center City.....but the crime and dirt of the city are keeping me away.

Recently, I've realized that I am NOT a fan of clubs. Hate them. Yes, once in a while they're good for bugging out and people watching, but that's about it. Nothing excites me about $8 drinks and $30 appetizers. Now without this "passion for flashin" how am I to keep up with the hipsters on what's going on (more importantly, how do I keep up for my artists)? Sigh. I guess there will still be random nights of complete drunken mayhem for me....it's ok... I'm still young :)